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    Anonymous - Relationship Fears

    Well, I have a couple of thoughts ,but thank you for sharing. This is something that I definitely struggled with. It's something that I hope you never try to get good at. Because these are the types of relationships that can last forever. That's not meant to frighten you, but to encourage you to be serious about this. Also, it should be important to consider whether or not you are mature enough for a relationship. You didn't indicate your age here and I wouldn't ask you to, but until your focus is on the best life for the other person, without regard to your part in their life. Pursuing a relationship may not be in your best interest. Alright, now that you've gotten through the whole worrying part, it's time to not worry. Because asking someone out is very simply. You get them alone and then you say "Hey, _______ you want to go out sometime." And then you go out on a date. So yeah that's it. You were expecting more? Like what? There isn't a secret formula. There isn't anything especially complex about the situation. But that doesn't mean it's easy. And getting shut down could be rough, but if you aren't committed enough to your relationship with this person to face rejection, you probably aren't committed enough to being a relationship. You don't have to be the best communicator, or most attractive person in the world to makes relationship work. You just have to be willing to work on the relationship. And if you think your ready. Go for it. Learn from life and grow. That's the most wonderful part about a relationship is growing with another person. You and they are both going to change, but in a relationship you don't do it alone. Also, learn the difference between love and having a crush. That will make the difference between a lasting and wonderful relationship. And one that doesn't last. Best of luck. Love, Joseph Bohan One of the Real Ones.
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    Princess - Empathy, Memories, and Movies, Oh School!

    Princess, you are not alone, so don't be discouraged when others don't come the the same conclusion. I personally find it very easy to empathize with those who face trials though I doubt it's as deep of a feeling as you. Though, I don't always find it during documentaries. I find that empathy can even show when watching a show. It we take the time to try and understand what a character is going through. If you want a reason as to why movies don't usually close the real moments up with a nice bow, it's because they're awkward. The moments that really bond people aren't comfortable. Because they are human. So, how do you face such troubling feelings? 1st. Pray, that should always be a go to. If it's not, that may be a part of the issue, but that's a discussion for another day. 2nd. Determine the reason you are feeling the way you do. This may mean digging deeper into the pain, but this will allow you to see the hurt for what it is. That will make it easier to face. 3rd. Learn to live in the uncomfortable. The nature of these is to make you uncomfortable. It's not to paralyze you with fear but motivate you to action. Thus, your focus should be on what you can do in these scenarios, not on the horrors you see. It's like we talk about in golf, if you are focused on the water, you're going to hit it in the water. If you're focused on making your shot. You will make your shot. Focus on the good you can do, not that bad that has been done. And let that motivate you to action. You are an amazing person and have a heart of gold, well, it's probably mainly carbon, but that's beside the point. You care about people and what happens to them. And that's what matters. Let your caring motivate you to great things. Love, Joseph Bohan One of the Real Ones
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    Speech - This is not the end

    That would be the point wouldn't it? Depression unfortunately is not a lack of emotions and thoughts, but a negative perspective. Thus if the truth nullifies such thoughts and emotions, it leaves us with the simple option of joy and of hope. Whereas you might see no hope in what is happening right now in the world, the truth is that there is an abundance of hope. But that hope can not be placed in relationships. At age 20 expectations hit reality, and depression can result when your reality doesn't meet those expectations. But that doesn't mean you leave behind the pursuit of good things, rather you recognize the difficulty it takes to achieve such things. Divorce rates keep rising simply because we don't recognize that happily ever after is the result of trials and difficulty. There is so much joy that can be found in and on the other side of trial. We just need to have the fortitude to continue on even when life is hard. And when we can't, we need to stop looking at our fellow man as the culprit, we need to stop looking at ourselves as the culprit and realize that we weren't ever made to bear all of our struggles. There will be some that we can't face. But those are the moments that God steps in, and does the impossible. Love, Joseph Bohan One of the Real Ones
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    Aaron - The Hurricane of troubles

    Thanks for sharing @aaron_of_mcd. I know that life changes can hit hard. In terms of life changes that you've faced, definitely a Cat 4. The thing to remember is that when we have our primary needs fulfilled, we can focus on secondary needs more fully. Primary, being food, water, shelter, community. Secondary being anything else. And you've faced having most of your primary needs taken away from you by something that you can't prevent or stop. And that can leave your mind realing. This is the part where you tell me that you know all of that, cause you've lived it. And rightly so, for you have. However, this is the moment you make something of a difficult situation. And you know how you do that? You face what has happened. Take some time to process this, talk to your parents, talk to some friends, even over the phone. Express what you need to express, because chances are you don't know what it is you need to say, and you won't until you start trying to say it. I'm not telling you this as someone who is the best at it, but as someone who is struggling to do the same. For I have historical chosen to shut out the bad things, but that doesn't make them go away. That just makes them build up untill they break through the door. It is far better to face them all, one at a time, than to face them all at once. You don't have to be ready, but you definitely don't have to be afraid. And we're here for you when you need us. You are an amazing individual, far above me, to have the strength to join the ROTC, especially at your age. Learn to talk, learn to listen, that will give you the ability to refocus on what you need/want to do. Love, Joseph Bohan One of the Real Ones
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    Is cereal soup?

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    Speech - This is not the end

    Depression is always self inflicted. Whether caused by chemicals out of the control of the person, or by their own thoughts. However, that does not mean that the world will be stuck this way. Indeed the strongest people have come via the way of trials. Those who hurt and still live a life of joy and wonder are not, as we often put, trapped in depression. Indeed we are trapped by nothing at all. For those of us who acknowledge the truth. The truth has set us free, not from the pain and hurt of this life, but from the entrapment that it creates. Happily, from here on out, we're going to change every thing, for the better. And we're not going to let anything stop us, at least till the end of our generation. A slightly above average Joe
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    Starting Life?

    Ole Joe will only add, that the main take away here is to be genuine. Be genuinely nice, be genuinely. People can see fakes mile a way. Learn and be you. Thanks for posting @Felrein/ @Felrein002.
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    My first electronic music

    Bro, such an epic song title. How in the world did I not see this was here. I'm glad you are out there trying new things. That's awesome! Keep up the good work.
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    TikTok Videos

    What's a tiktok?
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    Favorite book/series?

    Ooh seems interesting what are they about?
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    Count to 1000!

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    Count to 1000! Unlocked

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    Favorite Skyrim mod?

    I only recently got a of that could run Skyrim and totally forgor mods were a thing. They really aren't on console yet.
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    Can you guess the bomber!?

    No, they're mostly in the debris and witness testimony, but I don't think we've checked the table. In all honesty though I doubt that thy would be. As of this writing the final character had only just been introduced. Would seem a shame to show all the cards before everyone was dealt a hand.
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    Count to 1000!