Regarding my father’s expectations; it can be said that they were overwhelming and quite difficult for three preteens who did not prior have chores. Many of the chores were normal; clean bedroom sweep, clean bathroom, do dishes and basic yard work. Where it differs is that we then were made to do a large portion of the cooking in house though it would be several years until we had to do it all and more years until we shared the load amongst us five. A major note is that my brothers had a few months prior to adjust to the chore list while I was thrust un after a week and was rather lost in everything and when we failed to meet the requirements or did something wrong, we would be punished. These punishments would change relatively quickly and would later prove to be to our mental detriment.
Before his current relationship by about four years, according to by elder brother, the punishments consisted of writing sentences in increments of 50 to 100 normally with about a few days to complete. This would later change a few thousand in a week after they split off in around 2009. A year later our father would add exercise to the list of punishments in increments of 25 and for a total of around 100 or more for me and my younger brother until we were used to it. My older brother on the other hand was the source for the exercises would receive the worst parts of the punishment system. This came to pass due to his bullying issue. For you see he is mildly autistic and introverted many people from his school would pick on him because it is easy to get under his skin. Our father new of this and did nothing to help the situation until he one day fought back and was brought back home by a police officer. This incident would be the groundwork for his DS to be taken away until 2017 and the institution of the compound interest exercises.
Compound interest exercises is pretty much what it sounds like; every day for a length of time he could must do so many pushups, sit ups and or burpees. When he failed to complete them, they would be added to the next day with more tacked on based of some percentage. After the first few months he could also take his lumps in forms of minutes of wall sits or beatings. During this time, he would also be threatened, and I believe a few times forced to sleep outside, with a tent. As such while he had become physically fit, he had become increasingly closed off from everyone else to the point where he would hide in the bathroom because that was the only safe space for him. As a reaction to this the parental units of the house began regulating his bathroom time as well as all our screen time going to the extent that they would have cameras set up on front of the tv and had remote access to all out our computers, which he still dose. After about three years they gave up and he joined the rest of us with up to 1000 pushups to do in an evening. The writing would stop before the first move.
During the first few months of being in the house I came to fear the man I called my father. He would regularly yell at us and make things harder then they seemed. As we would later learn; our grandmother who is also very clean would not clean to his expectations. He would also attempt to explain why we were being punished but we seldom understood the whole situation. He would once in a blue mood storm into our room and take the stuff that were deemed out of place and toss it in the garbage. He locked our younger brother on the back porch in the dark for an hour because he was afraid of the dark. Our father threw most of my elder brother’s stuff away because he felt like it a few times as well. Our Father would also resort to wrestling us to the ground when we got to emotional or would not talk to him. This would escalate to when he picked up my older brother by his neck.
Other punishments consist of a hot sauce mouth wash followed by salty soap water mouth wash for lying, solo yard work that consisted of removing a collapsed and over grown dog cage, preventing us from having screen time (using electronics when not related to school with search history checks), and reading The Heart of Darkness our loud while recording it for proof. During the elder brother’s beatings and exercise regimen he did have CPS however; our father shrugged them off claiming discipline despite my brother having the regulate inability to sit down and belt markings on his arm ad he would try to instinctively block some of them. The beating lead to my and my younger brother doing anything we could to block out the screams in the evening. For the past few years things have become a lot tamer in the regards that we are all over 18 and that he just turns off our internet or takes our computer off our desk. The same cannot be said regarding our father’s ability to keep his promises.